hannigramgf:

Something I had to understand in order to fully accept my bisexuality is that bisexuality isn’t “50% attracted to men, 50% attracted to women”. It’s “100% attracted to men, 100% attracted to women”. In other words, my attraction to my gender is a whole attraction. My attraction to other genders is a whole attraction. It’s not like one pole of my attraction is reduced or diminished because of the other pole. It’s not as if my attraction “shifts” so that if I’m currently attracted to a woman, my attraction to other genders reduces. Essentially, it’s not a zero sum game. My bisexuality includes the fullness of both poles of my attraction. And I know that many bisexual people say that they have preferences, or even parse their sexuality into percentages. I know that many are just tempted to do that because straight people misunderstand bisexuality. But I think it’s so important to emphasize that bisexual attraction is not inherently less or more of heterosexual or gay attraction. Reclaim both poles of your sexuality - your attraction to your gender and other genders. Understand that for you, the two exist separately but in tandem with each other. They may influence each other, but they do not counteract or negate each other. I’m 100% bisexual, which means I am 100% attracted to women and 100% attracted to people of other genders. I’m not 50% or 33% anything.